22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.23 Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.25 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth,26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will. 2 Timothy 2:22-26
Foolish and stupid arguments are a waste of energy, time and breath. I think there are some apologists out there that can go too far in trying to get someone “saved.” Apologetics is defending and proving that what we believe as Christians. We have to remember that we can argue someone into heaven, but someone else can come along and argue them back out of heaven. I really believe it’s a fine line that we walk when we start to argue over our faith. Passion is awesome, but not at the expense of ruining what God is trying to do in someones life. Paul here has some godly wisdom and says just that, not to be quarrelsome, not to argue, but be kind and loving to people. The old saying you get more bees with honey rings true here. I think sweet loving encouragement goes a long way for people to see the truth than hitting people with a lot of scripture and proof of God. The best proof of God is what He has done in your life. No one can dispute that or argue against your own personal experience with God. God’s plan is for us to love people into heaven, not argue them there. Arguments are for the intellect, love is for the heart.