1 Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task.2 Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.4 He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.5 (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)6 He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil.7 He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap. 1 Timothy 3:1-7
I think sometimes the Bible gets a bad rap as a book of dos and don’t s. In reality it’s a book to teach us true freedom in the way we should conduct ourselves, not just in God’s physical church, but our Body Temples. We carry the Holy Spirit around with us everywhere we go because our heart is now the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit. Self-control is talked about throughout verse 2 in this reading. Most everything we see listed in the other verses has everything to do with self-control. The world sees being out of control the real freedom. The truth is it’s bondage. If you are out of control with your finances you will head toward bankruptcy. If you are prone to violence you will end up behind bars. You can’t have any peace in your life if you are causing strife all around you. This is why self-control is so important and why God places importance on it. He wants us to have self-control in Him. We need to allow Him to be in the center of our lives an then we will have this awesome self-control. We will have victory in every area of our lives if we allow Him to move our self-control. This is why it’s a fruit of the Spirit, because it causes so much good things to happen in your life. What self-control gave me was supernatural determination to have control over my eating. I still struggle with it, but it’s so much better than it was. By giving myself some limitation I was able to lose a great deal of weight and have a testimony to what self-control can do to transform a life that was out of control. So, being a leader in the church, self-control is a must have attribute that we all need to aspire to. Being self-controlled is not something that is automatic, it’s a choice you have to make.