Self-control In an Out-of-Control World


I just finished eating my breakfast and reading my daily devotionals with my coffee and am once again reminded of the all-important self-control that we all should have in our lives.  The Apostle Paul wrote this to the Galatians in Galatians 5:22:

“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives:  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Whether you believe in God or not the wisdom in these words is apparent.  Self-control has everything to do with that list of godly attributes.  At the start of a New Year we all have this tendency to make goals and resolutions with changes in mind for our lives.  This year the top 10 New Year’s resolutions and goals are (From

  1. Lose weight
  2. Get organized
  3. Spend less save more
  4. Enjoy life to the fullest
  5. Stay fit and healthy
  6. Learn something exciting
  7. Quit smoking
  8. Help others in their dreams
  9. Fall in love
  10. Spend more time with the family

What we need to understand in gaining self-control is it is never taught, caught, or given, but is a choice.  It’s a choice to be made every day and is the key to working out all 10 of the above goals you may have as well as those godly attributes.  Praying for self-control is great, but until you come to terms with your own choices that you make, self-control will be elusive.  I have some thoughts as to what can help us keep self-control in an out of control world.

One of the first tough things we have to face is change.  No one likes change, they hate it, that’s why they wait till the end of the year and say next year is going to be different so I will make these goals and resolutions.  We allow excuse to demotivate the change we need to have in our lives to enrich it.  Changing your choices is the most important thing you can do to have self-control.

The next idea is to have convictions.  Convictions are another way to have self-control, drawing lines in the sand and say I will not cross over this line no matter what happens.  It’s a positive way to be stubborn.  I love people who have convictions because they are easy to respect.  Reading God’s word every day is a sure fire way to get convictions in your life.

A final idea we should have for self-control is contentment.  We should be content with who we are, where we are, and what we want to become.  Contentment is not staying the same, but allowing that change to happen for the better.  It’s being comfortable in your choices.  Unhappiness is the opposite of contentment and is a big danger to not attaining self-control.  Unhappiness motives us in the most negative ways, we are not happy with who we are, where we are, where we are going.  We look at other people’s lives and wish we had them, when in reality those people still have the same issues we have.  Unhappiness makes unhealthy choices.  Contentment makes wise and awesome choices for the life you truly desire.

Having self-control in an out of control world is not easy and takes time to develop with the correct choices we make.  We will succeed in goals and resolutions when we live by allowing change to take place, living by healthy convictions, and being content with those great choices we make.  Don’t let the same old same old rule your life, or unhappiness to force unhealthy choices in the way you live.  What are some new choices you need to make to get you to self-control?

Charlie Mike So You Can Mike Charlie

Becoming a Navy SEAL: Lessons in Survival - Planet Wild

Navy Seals getting “wet and sandy” during training.

I occasionally listen to the Julian Michael’s podcast to get trainer tips from time to time. The show is fun and I learn some heathy things that she talks about on the show. One show in particular she started talking about the concept of Charlie Mike. She was going through a difficult time in recording her new show and came to a point where she didn’t like where it was going, but could do nothing about it. One of her cohosts who is a former Navy Seal gave her some great advice, he told her to Charlie Mike it. Charlie Mike is an acronym for continue mission. The Navy Seals are trained to continue the mission no matter how bad it’s going. This is a lesson we can apply to our own lives when some circumstance we come up against makes our safe simple circumstance we were hoping for get a little complicated. There are several viewpoints to our lives that we can use Charlie Mike to Mike Charlie, which is acronym for mission complete.
The first is our vocational life, what is your life work? We are at the most professional when we use Charlie Mike in our jobs. Just recently, I experienced a setback on a day I fully expected to be short, but it ended up being longer than anticipated. As a second job to help me as I build my business, I run inventories for a large third party inventory company. I was told that I was only to count the pharmacy part of the store, not the floor of the store. When I got there, I was told by the buyer that they were going to buy everything in the shop. I used Charlie Mike in this situation and came through it looking more professional. The test came when I let two auditors go because we were down to the last two areas and we were going to be too much on top of each other to count effectively. I let them leave and then was hit with 7 more boxes of drugs to be counted. Instead of complaining and getting angry, decided to keep on mission and finish the job. It worked; I was less stressed out and ended up with a perfect inventory rating after the job was done. It’s all in our choices.
The next viewpoint is our health life. Sometimes we get to a certain age and think that’s it, I can’t lose those pounds. That was the case with me. I thought that once I got in my forties, I would be stuck with the 449 pounds for the rest of my life. The truth is I was able to Charlie Mike it because that weight was killing me, literally. Fear can be a great motivator toward the courage we need to change. Although I think anyone, who wants to get fit because they want to and not because of the grim reaper is knocking at their door gets my full respect and they are more of an inspiration than what I had to do.
The final viewpoint is the most important and that is spiritual. Charlie Mike applies to our spiritual life as well. I am trying to build a personal trainer business and if there is one thing I am learning in God’s will is it takes time. Prayer and patience are two qualities we need for Charlie Mike to get to Mike Charlie. Prayer to God gets us through those tough times that we can have when life just happens; where circumstances can seem grim. Patience through these times can finally put away all the fears that can crop up as we go through them.
We can Charlie Mike it or continue the mission in these three aspects of our lives, with our vocation, our health life, and our spiritual life. Life is too short to allow anger, and fear to keep us from getting to mission complete or Mike Charlie.

© [David Howard], [David’s Body Temple], 2011-2015

Our Freedom, Our Flag, Our Patriotism

“The patriot volunteer, fighting for country and his rights, makes the most reliable soldier on earth.”~Stonewall Jackson

“Martin Luther King, Jr. didn’t carry just a piece of cloth to symbolize his belief in racial equality; he carried the American flag.”~Adrian Cronauer

“For me, the definition of a patriot is someone who is willing to constantly question the government; that’s what separates us from other countries”.~George Clooney

Webster’s 1828 dictionary defines a patriot as “A person who loves his country, and zealously supports and defends it and its interests.”  It’s amazing what we as a nation take for granted after over 200 years.  People have no concept of what a patriot is anymore.  The George Clooney quote is the perfect example of someone who has lost touch with what a real patriot is.  It took almost 100 years to free African Americans, and another 100 years after that to allow them to vote.  Our country though not perfect is learning what is important in human rights and racial equality.  Some voices are out there that will tell you different.  I think it’s healthy that we are removing Confederate flags from state and national areas.  I think it’s great we are digging up graves and moving Confederate generals who were KKK members and tearing down their statues.  I draw the line to go so far as to say the Confederate flag was symbol of hate.  General Stonewall Jackson was a true patriot that was defending his way of life just like anyone else would if he or she felt threatened.  He was not happy with slavery and even had a bible study with slaves before the war.  Not all Confederate soldiers became KKK members.  The civil war was not fought over just slavery as revisionist history people would have you believe, it was fought also because of the south being mostly agrarian and the north becoming more industrialized.  They also couldn’t agree on taxes, tariffs, and states’ rights verses federal rights.  Martin Luther King did fight against the government, but he was a patriot while doing it.  He talked about the Declaration of Independence in his great speech on Capitol Hill.  He was pointing out the hypocrisy that our government continued to support.  He died for what he believe, it was not to destroy America from within, but charging it, making it grow for the better.  That’s what a patriot does.  Let’s talk about the vision of the original patriots.

At the time, they needed a symbol of the freedom they sought, so they designed the flag that some say represents hate just as the Confederate flag does.

“The colors of the pales (the vertical stripes) are those used in the flag of the United States of America; White signifies purity and innocence, Red, hardiness and valor, and Blue, the color of the Chief (the broad band above the stripes) signifies vigilance, perseverance, and justice.”

I found that quote on  The first part of the quote talks about white being the symbol of purity and innocence.  Our country, though we have made some poor decisions with leaders that were weak or wrong in their views, is still a force for good in the world.  WWI and WWII were great examples of wars that we needed to fight to keep our nation free.  There are other wars that in my own opinion that were purely political in nature.

The red stands for hardiness and valor.  Hardiness and valor are raw courage, courage that those patriots back in 1776 showed when they declared independence from England; they bucked the government.  Hardiness and valor is the raw courage a man named Martin Luther King had to point out what was wrong in our society.  Hardiness and valor is the raw courage our service men and women continue to show as they serve their country by going into harm’s way.

The blue signifies chief or leadership.  Yes, our leaders even though they make mistakes like everyone else are patriots.  They give up a lot to become our leaders, they are constantly in the public eye, constantly criticized, and questioned.  It’s a battlefield, look how many presidents have aged in just four years.  We don’t have to agree with them, in fact I am not a fan of any politician, I am a fan of people who want to serve our country in the best possible way, not cater to group; which unfortunately most of our leaders today do, on both sides of the isle.

The last part of the flag is the broad band above the stripes that represent vigilance, perseverance, and justice.  The patriot is vigilant, he or she preservers, and they are just.  These are the qualities that bring about the red; the raw courage.  They are the fuel for courage.  Perseverance keeps you motivated and moving forward.  Vigilance protects, is always observing and keeping a watchful eye.  Justice is doing what is right at the right time.

The flag is a symbol of honor, which brings out the best in America, not the worst.  It is the symbol of the patriot that wants a country that isn’t divided, but united.  Honor is love and respect, and if we have love and respect for one another then we will have a strong union that the white stripes of purity with the red stripes of courage with the blue union of leadership, and the band of perseverance, vigilance, and justice, can fly proudly for the patriots of this country.

© [David Howard], [David’s Body Temple], 2011-2015

A New Beginning

Like a new spring morning change is a good thing and a thing that makes you grow.  If you have been reading, my blog for some time you know I have hit some redundancy in it.  I love writing on spiritual matters and how God moves in our lives, but I also know that the focus of this blog was to be informative as far as fitness and nutrition.  The description has been changed to reflect this as well as the sub title.  I hope everyone who reads this blog will gain some knowledge on how to take care of his or her Body Temple.   Please comment on this and maybe some ideas that you would like me to cover in this new format.  Thanks for being awesome loyal readers.

© [David Howard], [David’s Body Temple], 2011-2015

Magnificent May: Goodness and Grace

“Now God has us where he wants us, with all the time in this world and the next to shower grace and kindness upon us in Christ Jesus.  Saving is all his idea, and all his work.  All we do is trust him enough to let him do it.  It’s God’s gift from start to finish!  We don’t play the major role.  If we did, we’d probably go around bragging that we’d done the whole thing!  No, we neither make nor save ourselves.  God does both the making and saving.  He creates each of us by Christ Jesus to join him in the work he does, the good work he has gotten ready for us to do, work we had better be doing.”  Ephesians 2:7-10

Composite of my transformation from 449 lbs to 207 lbs.

Composite of my transformation from 449 lbs to 207 lbs.

I’m sitting here in Einstein Bros drinking coffee and blogging, and reflecting on the goodness and grace of God.  May is a symbolic month for me.  It was May, eight years ago that I started my weight loss journey with my awesome friend Lisa.  She helped me gain my weight loss goals and changed the way I live my life.  In the same month seven years ago, I learned how to run for the first time.  Two years ago, it was the month I received my Personal Training certification.  This year it’s the month I have my first client that my friend and business partner Lisa and I have together.  I have come full circle to this moment in my life.  It’s been a long road and still is a long road to get to where I want to be, but I will take the downs with the ups because my faith and character have been built on these.  May is a rebirth month; spring is in full bloom when May rolls around.  To me the spiritual significance is that May is the fifth month and the number five means God’s grace and goodness.  God has given me a lot of grace and lately a lot of goodness.  The verse that is quoted above is from the Message version of the Bible.  This is a famous salvation verse that is quoted with just verses 8 and 9, but I think 10 is so significant in the fact that we are created to do good works.  Let’s break down this verse in regards to God’s grace and goodness.

The first part of the scripture talks about God having us where He wants us.  Meaning he wants to shower us with grace and goodness.  He always desired to make it a continuous thing and He achieved it through what Jesus did on the cross.  My showering moment was eight years ago when I was dying from heart failure because my heart could not handle the girth that was around it.  Having Lisa, who at the time was my nurse, show me how to eat and begin an exercise program was the beginning of hard work and great blessing.  The choices I made allowed God to do his thing in a most powerful way.  When you make a step toward God, He always comes running.

The next statement that shows goodness and grace is salvation being God’s idea.  God loved us so much that He was willing to do anything to show us that love.  The major small step we make is with total trust and fulfilling faith.  My test of faith and trust to see God’s goodness and grace was learning how to run.  For me that was a major undertaking because when I have run in the past I had asthma to contend with.  So, with running, fear was what kept me from getting started.  Lisa gave me a great running program to begin with and it slowly over a month got me to running a straight 30 minutes.  I had to have total trust in God to begin running, and I am so glad, because now I have a fulfilled faith.

The next statement that we are going to look at is how salvation is a gift.  We cannot earn it through certain good merits; we don’t deserve what we are getting either.  God freely gave it to us when Jesus died on the cross.  The gift does not stop there; when we work on obedience to God, we find favor.  I found favor when I had enough money to take a class on Personal Training and get my certification to share my passion.

The last statement is we are created to do good works; salvation doesn’t depend on our good works.  As we saw in the previous point, it’s a gift.  Jesus is always first savior of our lives, then He becomes Lord of our lives when we start walking on the path He has set for us.  Doing the good works are the making Him the Lord part.  My path is for me to personal train people and help them get on their own path.  I find satisfaction and significance in doing this.

Coming full circle takes a lot of faith and trust and hard work.  We can do it if we know that God wants to shower us with goodness and grace, it takes faith and trust, it’s a gift, and we do good works so that God can do His good work in our lives and continue the favor and goodness and grace.

the start of something new

My niece Natalie wrote this very inspiring blog. I think it fits well on my blog site. Enjoy and feel free to comment. This is what I am all about.


I’m starting this blog as a way to keep track of my thoughts. This new venture comes on the heels of my last week going through the Daniel Plan book by Rick Warren. I’ve learned an enormous amount and due to the fear of forgetting these things and slipping back into old habits I wanted a way to catalog all that I’ve learned. I realize now that God is going to teach me so much more (not only about my health) in the years to come and there’s no better time than the present to start this up. I haven’t decided yet if I’m going to “market” my blog. Perhaps eventually I will direct others to read some of what I’m posting. I know God intends for me to share some things I’ve learned in an effort to help others. However, for now I’m keeping myself from being too critical…

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“Because You Are My Inspiration”

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ― Maya Angelou

It started out as a normal Saturday, except this Saturday, I was to meet a friend for a long 4-mile walk.  I hadn’t seen her in a few months and so we were going to catch up on things.  She has been my running buddy for the last two years so my plans were for a nice walk.  She then texted me Friday night and told me that she was unable to make it for Saturday, that she had some other things to do; which is not a problem for me because many of my friends live busy lives as I do.  So, I decided to take the walk anyway and spend some time with my awesome dog Buddy.  Buddy is a great running dog, but he needs to learn how to walk, so I thought this would be a great opportunity to do some loose leash training with him.  I parked my car at the Humane Society of Memphis and crossed the street to the path that leads into Shelby Farms Park.  They have been doing some major construction there to improve the grounds, so to get the mileage I was looking for I park there.  About 10 minutes later as we were entering the park Buddy and I see this woman running with one of those running strollers with her baby tucked away inside.  Me, being a personal trainer and someone who has overcome some major weight and health issues said: “You are doing awesome!”, as she passes by me.  I wasn’t sure if she heard or even understood me, we have a melting pot of different nationalities in Memphis.  Three miles later I see the same woman struggling up a hill with that stroller and I was so proud of her determination, so I yelled, “Wooo hoooo, you are so doing awesome!”, very enthusiastically.  Then the humbling experienced happened, she said, “That’s because you are my inspiration, I read that article about you.”  I was in total shock and as she passed by, I was able to get out a thank you.  She was referring to one of the three articles that were written locally about my 242-pound weight loss.  I don’t write this blog to show how great I am, I’m not.  I am nothing special, just someone that was greatly blessed by making one step of faith to rocket me into a positon of inspiration.  I made some of the rightest choices in my life for two straight years to lose all that weight.  When that woman said that to me I wanted to stop and cry, it meant a lot to know that I may have changed one person’s life for the better.  It doesn’t take much to inspire, all you have to do is lean a lot, learn a lot, love a lot to live a lot.

Leaning on God is where it all begins.  Leaning is steps of faith and trust that will find us God’s favor in our lives.  For me leaning was realizing that I did not have enough will power in myself to overcome all that weight.  I needed God’s intervention and I found it with some awesome people he put in my path that got me started.  I consecrated time every day to spend with Him as well.  Leaning made the most important part of my transformation, change on the inside.

The next is learning from God gives us wisdom.  I went to school on what I was dealing with.  I learned about the different causes of congestive heart failure.  I found that my enemy was myself and the poor eating choices I made, and the lack of exercise that I needed every day.  I also learned about God as I spent more time with Him.

Loving God, ourselves, and others is probably the biggest game changer in my life.  God wants us to put Him first in our lives.  Then He wants us to look in the mirror and love the creation that we see before us in a healthy way.  I’m not talking about a selfish love that only focuses on you and what you can get out of life.  I am talking about selfless love that asks what can I do to change my life and the life of others, what is my purpose in this life?  I want to continue to inspiring people to change by being a personal trainer and teaching them healthy way to live.

The last point is living your life to its fullest.  You can’t do that without point number three, loving.  Loving makes us life giving.  When we are life giving we are being like God, which is a good thing.  God always take a tragic situation and turns it around to be something of a blessing.  We have to look for it and expect it.  That’s how we should be in our lives, loving and living as much as we can, because life is short and hard, but we only make it harder if we allow ourselves to take every hardship as a negative experience.  I took my physical heart issue and turned it into a way to live a longer healthier life.  Always look for and expect the awesome to happen, when something bad comes around in your life.

Being an inspiration takes leaning on God, learning wisdom from God, loving like God, and living the abundant life God provides when we take Him into our lives.  I can’t guarantee that you will walk past someone and have them tell you what you did for them, but you will find out one day, that’s that treasure of heaven, all the souls you touched in your life, all the people you inspired.

© [David Howard], [David’s Body Temple], 2011-2015