Charisma: You Were Born With These Gifts

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.  For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.  We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.  If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.  Romans 12:3-8

At one point in your life, you may have taken a spiritual gifts test with the notion of discovering, out of the seven gifts listed, which ones are most prevalent in your life.  I decided to write a series of blogs on this very topic, but with a twist.  Taking experiences from my own life, I find that we are born with these gifts, or personality traits.  They are enhanced when we are saved and have the Holy Spirit with in us.  The word that is used in the Greek is charisma.  The dictionary definition of charisma is a divinely conferred gift or power.  God creates us and gives us charisma to do His will, the powers to get His will complete.  I think all spiritual power is added to these gifts and when we allow God to work in our lives, they are very important to our makeup and character.  The seven gifts are, prophesy, serving, teaching, encouragement, giving, and leading.  You are born with some of these, and you can have all of them in your life if God stretches you that way.  The best thing you can do is never compare yourself to anyone else.  God has created you to be you, so be the best you, you can be.  Whatever your gifting, use it to the full extent you can.  You may find other gifts that you were not aware of being a part of you.  The best thing you can do is know where you are in the body of Christ.  Let’s focus on the first gift, prophesy.

In the bible, we find prophets all over the Old Testament revealing God’s will for their lives and what God was going to do with the redemption of whomever.  They would tell the future and show a certain people what God has planned for them if they didn’t repent and change their ways.  Prophesy fulfilled is sometimes a tough pill to swallow.  They would also tell you in the least tactful way in coming straight to the point.  Prophets were never welcomed because they usually brought bad news.  To me there are several different ways one can use the gift of prophesy.  The first one is with tongues.  Speaking in tongues is usually prophetic speaking from the Holy Spirit of God.  Here we have to be careful not to mix speaking with tongues with praying in tongues, which I feel is not a gift and something we all have the capacity to do if we allow the Holy Spirit to control our prayers.  Speaking in tongues is sharing God’s future plans with others.  It has to have interpretation to go along with it.  Which interpretation is another part of prophesy.

Another gift of prophesy is sharing truth in a direct way.  If you have the gift of prophesy you are usually direct with your interpretation of the truth and are not very tactful in giving it to the person receiving it.  Sometime tough love has to happen and thank God for those of us that have this gift.  It won’t make you a popular person, but popularity is not something that is sought if you have the gift of prophesy.  The prophets of the Old Testament were a lonely bunch, but they relied on God to get rid of the loneliness.

The last type of prophesy gift is being able to interpret scripture in a practical way and share that truth with others.  Pastors are a great example of this.  They interpret scripture and share that in a practical way to teach us God’s truth, so that we will be equipped to help others find Christ.  The gift of prophesy is an awesome one to have, but when you use it, it might be a good idea to have the person who has the mercy gift to be there to soften the direct truth you share with someone who needs tough love.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.

The Few

When Jesus returned to Capernaum, a Roman officer came and pleaded with him, “Lord, my young servant lies in bed, paralyzed and in terrible pain. “  Jesus said, “I will come and heal him.”  But the officer said, “Lord, I am not worthy to have you come into my home.  Just say the word from where you are, and my servant will be healed.  I know this because I am under the authority of my superior officers, and I have authority over my soldiers.  I only need to say, ‘Go,’ and they go, or ‘Come,’ and they come.  And if I say to my slaves, ‘Do this,’ they do it.”  When Jesus heard this, he was amazed. Turning to those who were following him, he said, “I tell you the truth, I haven’t seen faith like this in all Israel!  And I tell you this, that many Gentiles will come from all over the world—from east and west—and sit down with Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob at the feast in the Kingdom of Heaven.  But many Israelites—those for whom the Kingdom was prepared—will be thrown into outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”  Then Jesus said to the Roman officer, “Go back home.  Because you believed, it has happened.”  And the young servant was healed that same hour.  Matthew 8:5-13

10 awesome WWII vets.

10 awesome WWII vets.

It was 7 am last Saturday morning and there was a beautiful orange ball of a sunrise happening before my eyes as I drove to a local church.  I was excited to be a part of seeing off some World War II veterans to Washington DC and some of them were headed to Normandy France later on.  I was so honored to be invited by a couple of my veteran friends to help see these men off.  It was such a patriotic gesture to see some men that Tom Brocaw coined, “the greatest generation”.  They spent so many years fighting to keep our way of life free.  There were around 30 people there including the vets and their motorcycle escort.  The vets themselves and the motorcycle escort took up half of the people there, the other half were those like us, giving well wishes and thanking these awesome people for their incredible sacrifice; also family members of the vets.  I was ashamed to see that there were not that many of us there to see these men off, they should have been treated as the well, if not better, than celebrities on the red carpet are.  The picture that I posted with this post shows a little girl, above that little girl is one veteran that is looking down at her.  I did some research on the ship he was on during the war.

The USS Kitkun Bay was part of an escort carrier squadron called Taffy 3.  It consisted of 6 escort carriers, 3 destroyers, 4 destroyer escorts, and 400 aircraft on the 6 escort carriers.  An escort carrier is not as big as a normal aircraft carrier.  The Kitkun Bay saw some major action during one of the largest naval battles in naval history called the battle of Leyte Gulf.  Part of that battle involved Taffy 3 that had to face 4 Japanese battleships, 6 heavy cruisers, 2 light destroyers, and 11 destroyers.  This was a major mismatched battle.  In the end the Kitkun Bay survived and was never damaged, this awesome brave group of navy men beat back the Japanese and sunk 3 heavy cruisers, and damaged the other 3.  They lost 2 escort carriers, 2 destroyers, and 1 destroyer escort.  They had sustained heavy losses, but the victory was they beat back the larger Japanese fleet.  That awesome gentleman pictured, looking down at my friends little girl was there and faced the Kamikaze attacks, the shells flying overhead from the cruisers and the battleships.   All he got this Saturday was a small amount of people giving him thanks, just a few.  There are 10 men pictured each with equally or more intense war stories.  The only thing they get is a few people.  Let’s talk about the faith of a soldier.

The above set of verses talk about how Jesus healed the Roman Centurion’s loyal servant, this soldier loved his servant so much he wanted him healed.  He came to Jesus because he knew that would happen.  He would have no part in Jesus coming to heal him; he knew Jesus could do it now.  Jesus said that he never saw such faith in anyone in Israel.  This speaks to that old saying that there are no atheists in foxholes.  There is nothing more faithful than a soldier.  They are faithful to their country, they are faithful to their brothers in arms, and if they are wise they are faithful to a great God.  Great leadership encourages courage and that courage finds itself turning into faith.  Faith that the objective will be achieved.  Sometimes as in the above example of the force being overmatched, faith needs to have hope.

The next thing the Centurion had was hope.  Hope is the intestinal fortitude of courage.  His hope was that Jesus would be able to help his servant.  The above battle off Samar Island shows hope was very much alive in that battle.  They could have turned around and steamed the other way away from that Japanese fleet, but they had hope that they could make an impact on that fleet.  The strategy worked and so they became victorious with their hope.

The last thing that the Centurion had was love, love for his servant.  He had faith, he had hope, and now he had love.  As I Corinthians 13 points out, this is the greatest of the three.  The soldier or warrior has love for his country, and love for his fellow brother.  Each of these 10 men suffered great loss in war; they lost a friend, a brother in arms.  Their lives will always have an empty void because of what they experience in the war.  They ranged from 97 as the oldest to 83 being the youngest.  The greatest generation is dying off.  How inconvenient for us to take an hour out of our precious time to say thanks to these awesome men.  To me they are better than any celebrity we see today, they show us what teamwork is, they show us what leadership is, and they show us how to move on into life past the worst nightmares you can face.

I’m not the great patriot that I am painting here, this was the first time I ever did this.  Not to say I never wanted to, just never had the opportunity presented to me.  I’m very thankful for my church family that are veterans and invited me to join them in this very patriotic gesture.  The point I am trying to make is that we need to have faith, hope, and most importantly love in our lives for our country and these awesome warriors that faced ungodly evil in their time, and spared us from living a life that is not free.  I am very proud of being part of the few that were there.  As this greatest generation dies off, we need to make that few, many.  Remember if you can take just 15 minutes out of your life to be inconvenienced, you can be someone’s angel.  Maybe the few, will become the many.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.

God’s Final Word Was, and Is, and Is to Come

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  He was with God in the beginning.  Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.  In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.  The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.  We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.~John 1:1-5,14"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"  1 Timothy 2:5

This passage of scripture is one of my favorite of all time, it’s almost poetic.  I love how John uses God’s Word as Jesus.  Jesus was God’s last word to man, and what a Word that was and still is.  The Word has lasted centuries and we still have the Word to look back at every day.  I want to spend some time breaking down this scripture in this post and maybe shed some new light on this passage.  When we would go out and share the gospel in my former church, we would always use this scripture.  I am so glad I have this one memorized on my heart to pull out at any time that I need it.

In the beginning was the Word.  Jesus was always around, always a part of God the Father.  He was there when the world and the universe around the world was made, He saw man and woman and all the creatures on this planet formed.  He was a part of the whole process.  I think we tend to think that Jesus’ beginning was when Mary gave birth to Him, but as John puts it, He was there in the beginning.

And the Word was with God, and the Word was God, He was with God in the beginning.  If Jesus was around in the beginning, then He was and is God.  It’s hard to fathom how the Trinity works.  There is God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  All three are one, and all three are how God chooses to reveal Himself.  The Holy Spirit was in the beginning as well.  It mentions the Holy Spirit moving over the face of the earth in Genesis 1:2..  In addition, Jesus revealed Himself on several occasions with Moses and was the fourth man in the fire with Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.  We are created in God’s image as trinities as well.  We have a physical body, an emotional persona, and a spirit spot.  They all work as one to make us who we are.

Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.  Jesus was a part of the creation process.  I was just struck with a realization that God made everything physical, so that means Jesus made everything emotional.  I believe Jesus had everything to do with making man’s emotional persona.  This would put Him in the position of being the answer to man’s fall.  The first Adam caused man to fall, the last Adam, Jesus, restores man to his former glory as mentioned in I Corinthians 15:45.

In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.  Without man’s persona, we would be no better than the animals.  He gave us life, He made us who we are, this is so incredible!  Life is having a personality, a character, and if we allow Him to, He will transform our character to be more like His character, loving and faithful.  What does this life bring; it brings light to a dark world.  Adam before the fall was clothed in light as God was.  That was why Adam and Eve realized they were naked because the light left them when they sinned.  Jesus restores life and light to our lives.

The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.  Darkness only exists where there is no light.  When you shine a flashlight in a dark room, the darkness can never overcome it.  It goes away when the light is introduced in a dark room.  When that light is used it helps us to see clearer.  When Jesus gives us life and light, we can shine bright in a negative dark world.  We become a danger to the darkness around us.  What an incredible awesome gift Jesus gives us.  The light that shines from us is the Holy Spirit.  We have the spirit spot in our lives.  This spot is empty and we try and fill it up with other things that are dark, but as we accept Christ in our lives the spirit spot is filled with the Holy Spirit.  The heart light that removes the darkness from around us that helps us see clearer and others around us to see clearer.

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.  We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.  Jesus came into the world as God/man.  He was all God and all man.  He is still all God and all man.  Jesus has the ultimate empathy to know what it’s like to be human.  Not only did He create our persona, but also He came to earth as one of us so He could redeem us and understand us.  Grace and truth would not have happened if He hadn’t come into this world.  Grace is God’s mercy and His unfathomable favor, which we do not deserve.  Truth is the fact that we need Jesus in our lives to help us be all that we can be in Jesus.  God’s glory happens when we accept Him into our lives and live the light that is within us.  We don’t allow the enemy to douse that light, we live godly and righteous lives.

God’s final Word Jesus, can save us from certain doom, can brighten and lighten our lives, can bring life into us, and help us always to overcome the darkness around us.  Shine bright all the time.  It’s the best life you can ever live.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.

Community Unity In the Wake of 9/11

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’  This is the first and greatest commandment.  A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”~Matthew 22:37-40  

I had my stress-fractured ankle propped up on the desk in front of me on the desk I was using.  I was in that position because a few days before I stepped off too soon and skipped the bottom 3 stairs and landed hard on my left foot.  The stress from my 449-pound body was too much for my ankle to support with that much weight coming down on it and so the stress fracture happened.  This occurred at work and so it was a Workman’s Comp injury.  I was fortunate enough to get some light duty while I healed in the boot they gave me to support my ankle.  I was sitting at that desk with my leg propped up and the news came in the third hour of my workday that the North Tower of the World Trade Center had a plane crash into it.  I was shocked and mortified that something like that would even happen.  I just thought at that moment that it was a freak accident.  Then about 8:15am I hear the news that the South tower was hit by another plane, then I realized that it was not a freak accident, but a terrorist attack.  The events that transpired since that heinous event are some great stories of heroic acts of kindness that saved lives, but also sacrificed many lives to save lives.  It was inspiring to see both Republicans and Democrats come together and sing God Bless America.  To see people and first responders from all across America to come to the site of the attack and help as much as they could to find people that may be trapped under the debris of the building collapse.  It was inspiring to see New York City a city where they are not known for their friendliness come together as one community to help each other out.  What disturbs me is this did not last for long.

Let’s fast forward to this morning, 7:30 am central time 9-11-2014.  The rain began around 5 am and came down in a continuous deluge.  I’m fortunate that my house sits on the crest of a hill, but my neighbors houses at the bottom of the hill are not so fortunate.  I didn’t realize how bad the flooding was on my street until my wife came back and told me that the middle of the street was flooded.  If this were 13 years ago, I would have not even considered going out in waste deep water to check up on my neighbors in the middle of the street.  My shame today is that I have lived here for 16 years and have not taken the time even to know these people, who by the way are very friendly.  A couple of these houses were filled with water; I went to four different houses to check up on my neighbors.  I gave my phone number to them all too late to even help them today, but in the future, they can move their cars to my driveway to get out of the water.  What is sad is it takes a crisis to unite us as a community.  I want to in no way compare what I went through today to what happened 13 years ago.  I just want to honor those that lived and died through that tragedy 13 years ago today.  I think one of the best things that came out of it was that sense of community and loving your neighbor that emerged from that crisis of major proportion.  Today was a personal revelation to me to be aware of whom my neighbor is and get to know them.  Of all of them, they lost four cars today and two houses were flooded.  Had I taken the time to know them, I would have had them move their cars to my driveway at least alleviate some of the stress of the damage they experienced.  If we take the time to get to know them, we can become their angel and they can become our angel in the time of need.

I would like to suggest to you today, if you don’t know your neighbor, be so bold as to find out who they are and strike up a conversation.  Don’t wait like I did when something bad happens, get to know them now.  Keep your neighbors close to you; you may never know when you will need them.  As Jesus said in the above quote, love your neighbor as yourself.  Your neighbor is not just those that live on your block or around your apartment, but those that are in your path every day.  A random smile here a happy hello there shows that you are friendly and that you are a person that cares.  If we can keep this second command as Jesus pointed out above, then we are doing a great job of keeping the first command, which is to love God.  If we love God’s creation, we show that we love Him.  Love your neighbor; don’t look at the bad stuff that they do, just love them like Jesus.  If it starts with you then maybe we can find some kind of community unity that didn’t last like it should have after the attack on September 11th, 2001.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.

Depression: You Just Don’t Get Over It


I have to reblog this because it’s an important post. Please read when you can.

Originally posted on David's Body Temple:

It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.  But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you. –Tyler Perry

But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.  – Mark 11:25

With the tragic death of Robin Williams, a gifted comedian and actor, I have been soberly looking back at my own bit of depression that I held onto for 37 years.  As you may or may not know, my story is that I finally became 449 pounds as I tried to eat myself to death.  Robin Williams probably suffered the type of chronic depression for which remedies are rare.  It takes intensive therapy and, especially important, antidepressants.  Some people who are haters have posted “Why didn’t he just get over it?”  Some things you just cannot “get over.”  These things…

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Depression: You Just Don’t Get Over It

It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.  But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you. –Tyler Perry

But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.  – Mark 11:25

With the tragic death of Robin Williams, a gifted comedian and actor, I have been soberly looking back at my own bit of depression that I held onto for 37 years.  As you may or may not know, my story is that I finally became 449 pounds as I tried to eat myself to death.  Robin Williams probably suffered the type of chronic depression for which remedies are rare.  It takes intensive therapy and, especially important, antidepressants.  Some people who are haters have posted “Why didn’t he just get over it?”  Some things you just cannot “get over.”  These things take the power of God to help you overcome them.  I am not going to sit here and even suggest I know Robin Williams spiritual demeanor, that would be playing God, and I leave that only to God.  This post is about the other half of my story, the depression that caused me to gain a lot of weight over the years. 

My difficulty was used as an illustration in one of my pastor’s sermons without mentioning my name.  He said he prayed that one day I would be willing to share this story with others, so others could gain power from it.  I don’t share this to get sympathy, pity, or sadness for what I had to endure.  I want to point out that if I had not gone through this, God could not have twisted this evil that was done to me into something good.  That something good is to share that you are not alone, and I pray that many who read this will realize that they have nothing to be ashamed of since they were not in control of the situation.  Of all the transformations that have happened in my life, this was the biggest.  It began with a suggestion from a very good friend who was instrumental in helping me lose my weight.  She said that I ought to check out the book The Shack, authored by William P. Young.  The book is a one of the best books I have read, and it was life changing for me.  In it, the main character has to deal with the heinous killing of his young daughter.  At the end of the book, God is telling him that he has to forgive the man that killed his daughter.  That touched me to the point of tears, and at the time, I had no idea why I was touched so deeply.  I said a prayer, “God if I have ever not forgiven someone, please show me.”  God answers these types of prayers.  He let it stew in me for two weeks and then gave me an answer.  He said to me through the Holy Spirit, “Remember when you were 10 years old and you were molested?”  Then I remembered.  It had been the same year I started gaining weight and the same year I gave my life to Christ.  Thankfully, being saved — saved me from lifestyles that are far more destructive.  Eating oneself to death is still destructive.  The weight gain gave me severe asthma, sleep apnea, and heart failure.  Bitterness and an unforgiving spirit ate away at my soul, and the only way I could find comfort was eating the comfort food that eventually made me so uncomfortable.  What still amazes me is that I had no idea how beaten down I was.  My recovery built my character by giving me a desire never to give up on life or trying to overcome.  Let’s now talk about steps that can move us from a depressed state.

If you have some kind of continuing destructive behavior in your life, you may need to consult a counselor or a Christian psychologist.  This may mean you are depressed, and I really believe one of the root causes of depression is bitterness.  The point here is that you need to reach out and get some kind of help, whether it is a friend or professional, if it leads to that.  What worked for me was sharing it with friends and family and getting the empathy I so needed to overcome my depression.  This may happen differently for you, we all are different people; what worked for me may not work for you.  The first step is examining your life and determining if you are continuing a destructive behavior.  If you are, seek some kind of help.  No man is an island, and we always need to reach out to people. 

The next, hardest, but most important step is to forgive the person who wronged you.  For me it was, “God, I don’t know where this person is, whether he is alive or dead, but I forgive him and pray that his life has changed around so that he will no longer hurt anyone in this way ever again.”  I continue to pray that to this day.  When I first prayed it, I felt absolutely nothing.  I did hear the enemy tell me that was not a sincere forgiveness prayer.  You may feel that way too, but ignore that thought.  God will honor that prayer because He knows your heart better than anyone, even the enemy.  The best ally you have is not only God, but also time.  With the right attitude and forgiveness, time can help heal all wounds, even those deep inside of us.  God uses time to soften the hurt that we have experienced and slowly will turn it around for the good.  He always is faithful in doing this.  It took a couple of years for me to finally feel completely free from bitterness, but the gratitude and love of life I experience every day is to me an indicator of my true freedom.

The last step is to help others who have experienced this pain.  Sharing your painful story with others helps to empower them and to empower yourself.  God doesn’t want us to be blessed and then leave it at that.  He wants us to be instrumental in freeing someone else from his or her own prison.  I allowed myself to get into a self-built prison and gave the enemy a stronghold in my life in which to destroy me.  When we selflessly share our pain, we bring forgiveness to ourselves for something for which we should not have to be forgiven because we were not willing participants.  Tyler Perry is one of my favorite people because he went through way more than what I had to endure, and what a thriving life he has.  He found the key was forgiving the person or persons that did this to him, but also forgiving himself.  He knows that forgiveness frees him, and he freely shared his story with the nation a few years ago along with over 200 men that were molested along with him.  Completed forgiveness brings the freedom to share with others and the freedom to change other people’s lives and help set them free. 

I found freedom from depression when I realized I had a problem, an issue, a pain in my life that needed to be dealt with.  I shared it with close friends, found freedom through forgiveness, and shared it with others in order to forgive myself.  It took me two weeks finally to finish this post.  As I have said, it has taken a great deal of courage to share this in this medium.  Sharing it with small groups is great, but this is even farther reaching, and I hope and pray many can gain some form of empowerment from this.  Freedom from an unforgiving spirit gives you stronger faith, hope, peace, joy, and, most importantly, a love of others and a love of life.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.

Soul Tie Freindships Can Launch Us Into Significance

King George VI

The highest of distinctions is service to others.~King George VI

And Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, because he loved him as he loved himself. Jonathan sealed the pact by taking off his robe and giving it to David, together with his tunic, sword, bow, and belt. I Samuel 18:3-4

I love the topic of friendship because I have come to a point in my life where I cherish friends that challenge me and make me a better person. I love giving to my friends and being generous with my life. This doesn’t mean giving money, but giving of my time and energy to make them better people the way they make me better. I saw an incredible movie the other night that had me thinking about the topic of friendship; it’s called The Kings Speech. Which is a pun of it’s own because it could mean either talking about him giving a speech or his speech in general. The interesting fact is that King George the VI did have a stammering problem. He would try to make speeches and would come up short every time. When he would give one, it would hurt both him in embarrassment and the listener. Albert was his Christian name given to him by his family and only family was allowed to call him that. If you were a commoner, you would call him your royal highness. Lionel Logue was at first not a friend, but his speech coach. As time went on and with some disputes, they became very good friends. Lionel was with him during every speech he made during WWII. Albert was a humble king, during the war the queen and himself could have lived other places and be very secure, but they choose to stay in London and live through the bombing like all the other British commoners did. Buckingham Palace did get bombed at one point during the war while the king and queen were there. They also could have had all they wanted during the war, but choose to be a part of the rationing the rest of the country had to endure. Hence, the above quote by the king shows the type of life he lived. Lionel in the film said that what helps with stammering sometimes is to have a good friend to listen to you. Lionel saw greatness in Albert, worked on encouraging that out of him, and gave Albert the courage to give great speeches that the masses needed to hear during the war. I cannot say for sure that their friendship was a soul tie, but I can say that if a king can make a friend of a commoner, there was something special there.

King David and Jonathan are a biblical example of the soul tie. A soul tie is a forged godly friendship that God brings together. God selects this friend for you and you and this person are bonded together as very close friends. You feel each other’s pain and you suffer with each other through life. It’s iron sharpens iron on steroids, you are there to help each other. It’s not a marriage, which is a soul mate, this is different. Jonathan offered David 5 things from his person. Now I am no biblical scholar, but I have some ideas as to what each of these items meant. The first item Jonathan gave David was his robe. I would guess the robe that he gave him was royal and this was saying that David had authority over Jonathan’s life. A soul tie means you think of yourself less than you think of your friend. Being humble in spirit is a mutual thing that will bring you close.

The next item he gave him was his tunic. A tunic is a shirt that covers. When he gave David this, it is as if to say, I got you covered. I have you covered in prayer, covered in protection, covered in reputation, covered all around. When you cover each other, your back is to each other in the battlefield of life and you can cover your friend. The best part of a soul tie is God having both of your backs. What a powerful combination.

The next item Jonathan gave David was his sword. This is an extension of the tunic; it means I have you covered aggressively if I have to. It’s protection from whatever may come up against you my brother. It says I will defend your honor; I will protect you from your enemy’s because your enemy is my enemy. The sword of the spirit speaks life into people; it’s not an instrument of death.

The next item the bow goes along with the tunic and sword because I think of it as representing prayer. Back in ancient times, the enemy was softened by a fusillade of arrows shot at them in the hopes that not all the shields will be covering parts of the enemy soldiers. I think of prayers that we send up for our close friends as a way of softening the enemy’s attacks on them. We are after all in a major spiritual battle.

The last item he gave David was his belt. The belt holds all of the other items together to bring him balance when fighting the enemy. Without the belt, there will be no place to put the bow or the sword. The tunic may get in the way during the battle. The belt is listed last because it’s important, it holds everything together. You can really think of this as the Word of God. It holds everything together and brings balance to our lives.

The difference between a soul tie and a soul mate is the level of intimacy in the friendship. There are clear borders in a soul tie, but in a soul mate, there are no limitations. God may have blessed you in having your soul tie be your soul mate, it all depends on who you are, and how God wants to work in your life. The biggest thing we can take from this is that God wants the best for our lives and so he provides a soul tie for all of us. The question is are you willing to have a close and deep friendship or are you afraid of getting close to someone and getting hurt? I think many miss close friendships because they don’t want to be open hearted and see how God can use other people to bless them. It might mean being real and showing ourselves vulnerable. A soul tie is being humble, covering your friend, protecting your friend, praying for your friend, and keeping in the word with your friend to make you an unbeatable team in this spiritual battle called life.

© [David Howard], [David's Body Temple], 2011-2015.